The internet is criticizing a man for returning a wedding dress his partner paid for, drawing harsh criticism for his actions.
The now viral post with 11,500 upvotes is titled “AITA for criticizing my future husband for giving me back my wedding dress,” and was shared on the subreddit “Am I the idiot?” on May 26. redditor @Sealine5033a 29-year-old woman, and her fiancé, a 33-year-old man, are soon to be married.
According the knot Royal Weddings Study of 15,000 couples who married in 2021, the average cost of a wedding dress was $1,800. Additionally, 99 percent of those who identified as female revealed that they wore a dress to their wedding.
“Wedding planning has been going well so far except for [a] few things he and I discussed about, like the place and the flower girl”, revealed the OP. “Now we have been arguing about my wedding dress.”
The woman revealed that since she was young she dreamed of having her “own beautiful wedding dress”. She can afford it, but her fiancé thinks it’s not right for her to “waste” a couple of thousand on a dress she’ll only wear once.
The OP admitted that he might be right, but she responded by telling him that she’s paying a “typical” price for a wedding dress. And in her opinion, it’s “a once-in-a-lifetime thing, so why not make sure it’s special?”
But the woman’s fiancé was not entirely “convinced” and suggested that she rent a wedding dress instead of buying it outright. He said she was being “irresponsible with money” and mentioned how much money she had already saved “to ‘rent a face’ (means makeup) and wear ‘fake’ hair (means extensions).”
However, the OP has a “vision” of what she wants to look like on her wedding day, and believes it is her “right” as a bride. She ended up buying her wedding dress, but only a day later, she realized that she was not in the closet.
“I freaked out,” the OP said, “but he told me he sent it back and got the money back.” He surprised me, I asked him why he did that, and he told me that he thought the dress was ridiculously expensive and a waste of money and again he suggested that he rent one.”
However, things did not end there. The woman admitted that she “exploded and raged” at her fiancé, which she had not done before. She even took a few steps back and told him to “calm down.” She told him that he had no right because she was the one paying for her dress.
“He got upset and said that there is no ‘pay it forward’ in marriage and that my attitude is setting the tone for the kind of dynamic that we will have in our marriage,” she continued. “He kept saying that I should expect him to pay for everything while I keep ‘my money’ or spend it irresponsibly (but I never tell him how to spend his money). I replied that he doesn’t say anything about how I spend my money.” money whatever”.
The woman’s partner told her she should “grow up the sh*t” and drop the “dream wedding dress cliché.”
She said he left and called his mother, who also got involved, scolded the OP and added that she wouldn’t let him ruin her son’s “financial stability” with his dealings with money. She also advised the OP to rent a dress or get a cheaper one and carry on, but the Redditor “refused”.
When it comes to the couple’s finances, they have a separation agreement with “consideration of joining them” within a year or two of marriage and when their partner has settled into their new job. However, her partner said that if the OP continues like this, she will “reconsider”.
In another comment, the woman revealed that “money has never been an issue.” However, she has no idea why he is “still stressed” about it. She wants to spend less, even on things not related to the wedding. She even reduced eating out and “monthly purchases like electronics and furniture, which seems excessive to me. What bothers me the most is that he does it with his money and mine.”
She also added that her fiancé still has the money for the dress, and he said he would return it to her once they reach a solution.
Redditor reactions: A ‘red flag’ wedding
Over 4,000 comments were received on the viral situation, with people fully supporting the woman as she criticizes her husband for returning her dress.
One Redditor believes the woman should call the authorities on the man “who stole several thousand dollars from her instead of marrying him, but it’s just me,” adding that the theme of the wedding is “red flags.”
“The bridesmaids will wear red,” they said. “The groom will have a red suit. And the aisle will be lined with bigger and bigger red flags until he gets to the altar, which is really just a tent made out of a giant red flag.”
Another user thinks the OP is not to blame and adds that they don’t even care if the dress cost $10 billion, a person doesn’t return a bride’s wedding dress without talking about it first.
“And last time I checked, your mother-in-law is not your accountant and should have no say in how you spend your money,” they added. “If your fiancé wants to discuss budget issues as a couple, that’s great! That’s the right and responsible thing to do. Him throwing a tantrum and then crying with mom is not that.”
Some people directly asked the woman to leave her future husband for the trick. “NTA [not the a**hole], throw his butt away,” one Redditor said. He’ll want to control everything once you’re married, including what you do with your money. Run away from this mess, or you’ll regret it later.”
Another added: “NTA is incredibly controlling and despises your opinions. It’s your money and an incredibly special day. I wouldn’t marry someone who disrespected me in this way and neither should you.”
One Reddit user said they would make sure, if they were in the woman’s shoes, that the man can’t access her financial information, insisting: “NTA. Someone is certainly setting the tone for what this marriage will look like, and if I If I were you, I’d be running in the opposite direction of all those red flags he’s waving.”
Some users even labeled the situation financial abuse, with one calling the woman “crazy” if she married the man.
“This is just the beginning of his financial abuse,” they said. “The fact that he withheld your money is mind blowing. There are lots of red flags here, honey. Compromising means giving in to what he wants. This is your future, so be careful.”
news week reached out to Redditor @Sealine5033 for comment.
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