Brian Dowling reveals that his sister Aoife is his surrogate mother for his baby with her husband Arthur Gourounlian

Brian Dowling has said that he and his husband Arthur Gourounlian are the “luckiest people in the world” after his sister Aoife agreed to be his substitute.

speaking to Made by Mammas: The PodcastThe 43-year-old Big Brother star said he had always wanted to be a father and his sister kindly offered to make his dreams come true by bringing a donated egg.

However, the TV presenter revealed that the journey to fatherhood had been a rocky one after he and his husband discovered “things along the way” that meant only one could be the baby’s biological father.

The couple has also been the target of homophobic abuse after beginning their path to parenthood.

'I always wanted to be a father': Brian Dowling, 44, (left) reveals his sister Aoife is his surrogate mother after he and husband Arthur encountered 'hard things along the way' on the road to fatherhood

‘I always wanted to be a father’: Brian Dowling, 44, (left) reveals his sister Aoife is his surrogate mother after he and husband Arthur encountered ‘hard things along the way’ on the road to fatherhood

While he didn’t reveal who his child’s biological father will be, Brian told host Zoe Hardman, “It makes no difference to me and Arthur.”

The star, whose sister is due to give birth later this year, married professional dancer Arthur in 2015 and said the two, coming from large families, had always wanted children.

“I always wanted to be a father, I remember I brought my two younger sisters somewhere in Paris, Disney, I was working at Ryanair at the time, I think I was no more than 20 or 21 years old and they were very young.” And I remember telling someone that I was their father to take them for a ride.’

Two become three: Brian (left), whose sister is due to give birth later this year, married professional dancer Arthur (right) in 2015 and said that since they both came from large families they always wanted children .

Two become three: Brian (left), whose sister is due to give birth later this year, married professional dancer Arthur (right) in 2015 and said that since they both came from large families they always wanted children .

The former Big Brother host, who also hosts his own Death Becomes Him podcast, recalled the moment Sister Aoife made the generous offer.

“At Christmas 2020, Aoife was like, ‘I’m definitely interested in doing this for you,’ and we were like, ‘Oh my gosh, maybe this is something we really need to think about,’ I told Arthur, “I’ve got 44 this year and I said at 45 I feel like I’m going to be too old” – Arthur is two years younger than me.’

And while he didn’t give any details about the donor’s egg, he said: “We went for a walk and she was like, ‘I’m really interested in doing this, I really want to help you guys, I think you’ve done it.’ done so much for me.

He added, “She’s single, she’s 32, so you know, experiencing all of that would be an amazing feeling.” But then not bear the responsibility.

“So the way it happened was very organic, and it was Aoife who started these conversations and that was very reassuring for us.”

He went on to reveal that the couple had previously lost two embryos after doctors concluded they were not viable.

“I was very sad because for me it is not just an egg and a sperm, this is an embryo, and they knew the gender and for me that was a loss. I know that sounds really dramatic. But for me that was a loss.’

Sad: Brian said straight couples don't face the same scrutiny after receiving negative comments online since they announced the news.

Sad: Brian said straight couples don’t face the same scrutiny after receiving negative comments online since they announced the news.

The star went on to discuss the positive feedback the trio has received since the news was announced.

He said: “My sister went to get a spray tan and she was naked and the woman was like, ‘Oh your Bran Dowling sister, what you do is amazing.'”

But with the positive also comes the negative, as he said heterosexual couples don’t face the same scrutiny.

There are people out there who can’t stand the fact that two men who chose to be gay are forcing this, you know, “raping a uterus”, “renting a uterus”, “forcing this woman into a situation”.

“We’ve had that stuff like, ‘Well, I hope she doesn’t get cancer from the hormones,’ ‘Men shouldn’t be allowed to have a baby,’ ‘You’re disgusting.'”

‘The day we chose to be homosexual, we gave up the right to be parents… But you know, that’s based on pure homophobia, that’s all.

“I know people who have opted for surrogacy who are straight and don’t get it. Do gay men or gay women do it? Everyone has an opinion.

How does surrogacy work and what are the laws in the UK?

Surrogacy is when a woman carries a baby for a couple who cannot conceive or have a child on their own.

Such couples may include those who have experienced recurrent miscarriages, repeated IVF failures, premature menopause, or a hysterectomy.

The risks of being a surrogate mother are the same as for all pregnancies and include nausea, heartburn and back pain.

In extreme cases, surrogate mothers may suffer from high blood pressure or gestational diabetes.

direct surrogacy

This involves using the egg from the surrogate mother and the sperm from the future father.

It is the least expensive and simplest form of the procedure.

foster surrogacy

Host surrogacy requires IVF with the expectant mother’s eggs or with the donor’s eggs instead of the surrogate’s.

In this case, the surrogate mother has no genetic relationship with the baby.

Donor eggs can be from friends or family, or they can be donated anonymously.

What are the laws?

Surrogacy is legal in the UK, however it cannot be advertised.

Third party participation is not allowed and surrogate mothers can only receive payments to cover expenses incurred as a result of being pregnant.

In the US, surrogacy costs around $100,000 (£75,879), with laws varying between states.

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